We did relaxed, with a bit of traditional thrown in. When the kids reached 6th grade and above, it became more unschooling (except that my son would prefer anything but books, and I didn't have money to buy enough of the things that would interest him. I bought him some kits for things like "air powered car" and other science gadgets. He went through all of them in the course of a day or two. Wish I'd been wealthy.)